Comments on: Stick a Finger in Your Eye and Break Your Heart All Over Again http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/ hockey player ~ feminist ~ library geek ~ dog freak Fri, 05 Dec 2008 10:36:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: chantal http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1906 chantal Wed, 19 Sep 2007 17:49:58 +0000 http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1906 Jeremy and I have been married for over 5 years, I've changed everything but my passport over to my new (well, not so new now) last name. I think it's completely ridiculous that anyone should who's married should have to pay extra to get it changed (I mean, we didn't have to pay to get it changed on other documents). Is this an MA only thing? When I asked about it last year (I think), I was told that I wouldn't actually have to get a new passport, but I would have to show my marriage license to show that it was me with a new name (never mind that we have no idea where the marriage license is hiding). But maybe that doesn't apply to lesbians because you're shifty (or at least the Feds think you are). I think I might have to give in though, and get the new passport, since we're half assed planning to go to France for a month next summer (he needs to go for research) - well, give in or just get my ticket in my maiden last name. Jeremy and I have been married for over 5 years, I’ve changed everything but my passport over to my new (well, not so new now) last name. I think it’s completely ridiculous that anyone should who’s married should have to pay extra to get it changed (I mean, we didn’t have to pay to get it changed on other documents). Is this an MA only thing? When I asked about it last year (I think), I was told that I wouldn’t actually have to get a new passport, but I would have to show my marriage license to show that it was me with a new name (never mind that we have no idea where the marriage license is hiding). But maybe that doesn’t apply to lesbians because you’re shifty (or at least the Feds think you are).

I think I might have to give in though, and get the new passport, since we’re half assed planning to go to France for a month next summer (he needs to go for research) - well, give in or just get my ticket in my maiden last name.

]]> By: kate http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1899 kate Fri, 07 Sep 2007 09:20:12 +0000 http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1899 this does seem/feel unfair! if it makes you feel better, i did expedited during the incredibly busy early summer months and was told i would get it in 7 weeks. i got it in less than 1 week. do you come up with these anti-spam words? they're funny this does seem/feel unfair! if it makes you feel better, i did expedited during the incredibly busy early summer months and was told i would get it in 7 weeks. i got it in less than 1 week.

do you come up with these anti-spam words? they’re funny

]]> By: shel http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1890 shel Tue, 04 Sep 2007 15:19:12 +0000 http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1890 ok, you might hate me for pointing this out.... but there's a disconnect between the passport agency and everything else you had to do. state vs. federal...ssa is federal but the numbers/names are admined on a state level - for instance everyone born in 77 from iowa, has the same first three digits on their ss#. and since the law to marry is a state one, and not federal, i suppose the need for the additional paper work. which sucks. and god, aren't expiditated passports the most incredulously exspensive thing. it's the best option though with the backlog on normal service passports. now, most important, where are you traveling this spring?! hint hint! ok, you might hate me for pointing this out….

but there’s a disconnect between the passport agency and everything else you had to do. state vs. federal…ssa is federal but the numbers/names are admined on a state level - for instance everyone born in 77 from iowa, has the same first three digits on their ss#. and since the law to marry is a state one, and not federal, i suppose the need for the additional paper work. which sucks. and god, aren’t expiditated passports the most incredulously exspensive thing. it’s the best option though with the backlog on normal service passports.

now, most important, where are you traveling this spring?! hint hint!

]]> By: Chadwick Seagraves http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1887 Chadwick Seagraves Mon, 27 Aug 2007 15:02:14 +0000 http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1887 Congrats on your first year of marriage. No longer newlyweds. :-) Too bad about the hassle with your documents. Perhaps after the '08 election things will start to turn around. Keeping my fingers crossed. Congrats on your first year of marriage. No longer newlyweds. :-) Too bad about the hassle with your documents. Perhaps after the ‘08 election things will start to turn around. Keeping my fingers crossed.

]]> By: rebecca http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1886 rebecca Mon, 20 Aug 2007 17:48:01 +0000 http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1886 i can't believe it. is it a question of awareness? like maybe the passport office had not planned ahead for this and so they don't have anything in place to address the name change issue? i agree with Alexandra that you ought to bring it to that politician's attention. and, hope it all gets resolved for your Feb. trip. i can’t believe it. is it a question of awareness? like maybe the passport office had not planned ahead for this and so they don’t have anything in place to address the name change issue? i agree with Alexandra that you ought to bring it to that politician’s attention. and, hope it all gets resolved for your Feb. trip.

]]> By: liberace http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1884 liberace Mon, 20 Aug 2007 13:22:40 +0000 http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1884 That's not right. That’s not right.

]]> By: katie http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1883 katie Mon, 20 Aug 2007 01:53:00 +0000 http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1883 i'm sorry. :( that sucks. i support you and amy! and thanks for educating me some about some of the troubles that same-sex couples face, beyond the obvious. just know i still love you! i’m sorry. :( that sucks. i support you and amy! and thanks for educating me some about some of the troubles that same-sex couples face, beyond the obvious. just know i still love you!

]]> By: Jessica http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1882 Jessica Sun, 19 Aug 2007 17:43:13 +0000 http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1882 Maddening! And, yes, I think it just may be tangible (and legal) evidence of discrimination. If the state has recognized your marriage, and all of the other offices you have had to deal with concerning this have recognized your LEGAL union, then, um, why not the feds? Oh, wait! I know! It's because that moron we call the Prez'dent is "the decider." Blech. The government needs to get a grip on the passport problems in general, as well. Here's a link to another tale of passport woe: http://bree.journalspace.com/?entryid=2674 I think I'm glad I never go anywhere. Maddening! And, yes, I think it just may be tangible (and legal) evidence of discrimination. If the state has recognized your marriage, and all of the other offices you have had to deal with concerning this have recognized your LEGAL union, then, um, why not the feds? Oh, wait! I know! It’s because that moron we call the Prez’dent is “the decider.” Blech.

The government needs to get a grip on the passport problems in general, as well. Here’s a link to another tale of passport woe:
http://bree.journalspace.com/?entryid=2674
I think I’m glad I never go anywhere.

]]> By: Courting Equality http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1881 Courting Equality Sat, 18 Aug 2007 19:22:35 +0000 http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1881 These concrete examples of continuing discrimination are important to put out into the blogosphere. Our straight allies need to know about the indignities and the inconveniences that we endure in our daily lives. Unfortunately, most people of good will believe that we have achieved equality in MA--well we sort of have. Your experience shows clearly how far we have to go--especially when our lives interface, as they necessarily do, with the federal government. Gay marriage in MA is a big step towards equality but it's only the first step towards achieving true citizenship. These concrete examples of continuing discrimination are important to put out into the blogosphere. Our straight allies need to know about the indignities and the inconveniences that we endure in our daily lives. Unfortunately, most people of good will believe that we have achieved equality in MA–well we sort of have. Your experience shows clearly how far we have to go–especially when our lives interface, as they necessarily do, with the federal government. Gay marriage in MA is a big step towards equality but it’s only the first step towards achieving true citizenship.

]]> By: Dichroic http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1880 Dichroic Sat, 18 Aug 2007 06:13:23 +0000 http://www.librarygrrrl.net/2007/08/17/380/#comment-1880 Ouch. I can sympathize. I'm going through a lot of the same sort of paperwork (to do with our move to Taiwan, cmplicated by the fact that we're not actually in the US). Some of ours is to do with a recent capricious change in Taiwan rules; I can only imagine how much *more* torqued off I'd be if I were going through all of this for unfair reasons. Ouch. I can sympathize. I’m going through a lot of the same sort of paperwork (to do with our move to Taiwan, cmplicated by the fact that we’re not actually in the US). Some of ours is to do with a recent capricious change in Taiwan rules; I can only imagine how much *more* torqued off I’d be if I were going through all of this for unfair reasons.

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